Facebook… Destroys Culture
by Flip Tomato (An American Physics student in
England)
I’ve
picked up a very fun book, Watching the English by Kate Fox, which discusses
English etiquette from a humorous (and nationally introspective) point of view.
Thus far I’ve found it an enjoyable diversion as well as a useful guidebook.
One particular section has to do with the English sense of privacy, where
personal information is a bit more reserved than, say, an American might be
accustomed to. It is considered inappropriate, for example, to introduce oneself
with one’s name (e.g. “Hi, I’m Flip. What’s your name?”). Rather, one should
first develop a bit of a conversation on neutral topics… usually the weather.
(And even then there are unspoken rules about what one may or may not say about
the weather.)
Occupation or marital status, similarly, have to be deduced by an understood
‘guessing game’ in which subtle questions and hints are dropped in the context
of a neutral conversation.
This led me to question the role of The Facebook in UK universities. (Yes, it’s
spread here like the Starbucks contagion.) The Facebook is a way to sidestep
English conversational etiquette by providing access to personal information
without requiring personal interaction. I’ve witnessed the creepiness of
Facebook fanatics as an undergrad; all manner of stalking, obsession/compulsion,
and (somewhat ironically) isolation stemming from the fact that a whole database
of people’s photos, marital status, and personal information is available at the
click of a mouse.
I wonder, then, whether this will produce a noticable perturbation to the
behavior of English Facebook users versus their non-Facebook,
conversational-etiquette-observing counterparts. Perhaps it is the case that,
however subtly, Americans are exporting their own cultural norms where such
Facebook infomation is readily accessible in everyday conversation.
(For what it’s worth, I would mourn the loss of English reserve, which I’m
growing rather attached to. I find myself increasingly squeamish when one of my
American-educated neighbors feels compelled to share her day’s worth of gossip
with the rest of us. At any rate, I am not a part of The Facebook and am rather
suspicious of its effect on the way teenagers interact.)
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